Mummy Blogger Haters

 

There’s been a bit of hype across blogland lately. Another forum thread which devalues and pulls down mummy bloggers has appeared on a very popular parenting website. I haven’t read it. You see, I don’t need to. I know what it will say. I know because *runs for cover and whispers… I was a mummy blogger hater! Please don’t lynch me! Hypothetically speaking of course, but I don’t need to say that if you’re a blogger do I. You get what I mean.

 

Mummy blogger haters

 

Let’s clear things up

I want to quickly clear up any horrified thoughts you may have because this post isn’t about “oh my gawds!!!” I just want to tell you why I’ve been a bit quiet in the old “defend ye blog kingdom” scheme of things. It’s not that I agree with those thoughtless hater threads but rather that I may just understand where their confusion (?) may have misled them. Sort of.

 

I was a mummy blogger hater

Hater is much too strong a word for me really, I guess the best way of putting it was that I was shocked by the mummy blogs I came across. They made me shout “what?!” and a good deal of “why would anyone say that, think that, show that!” I have never hated on a blogger directly in terms of leaving them a nasty comment or adding to a grimy thread. But back then I didn’t like them. Didn’t get them. And didn’t want to see them.

 

All the whys?

Before Little Button came along the blogs that tended to pop up the most were the humorous super-blogger ones. Posts that attracted likes by the zillion in Facebook, cluttering up feeds whether you liked it or not. But childfree I didn’t get what was funny about mum’s downing vats of alcohol and hiding from their children. I didn’t get why “the little sh*ts won’t sleep” type posts implored mass comments from strangers, whom, as it happened, agreed that their little sh*ts do the same thing. And then there were the downright weird blogs that surfaced every now and again which were about as useful as a chocolate teapot. Detailing an average day, every blinking flip flopping day.

 

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Nope, nope, nope. I just didn’t get it.

 

A change of heart

But then I became pregnant, and as you do (?) I asked Google if it was normal to take a billion pregnancy tests. Google politely replied with a dozen mummy blogs who all told me yes it was, and who revealed their own experiences with this funny saga. Thank you mummy bloggers for making me feel normal. When all I could eat was *coughs Mac Donald’s ketchup, there were yet more mummy bloggers queued up in Google waiting to tell me their weird pregnancy eating habits and assure me that it wouldn’t last forever. The list of questions I could ask was endless, and none of these mummy bloggers judged.

 

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And so right there I found a new level of understanding and respect for mummy bloggers… and daddy bloggers *because they are a ‘thing’ you know. They became my information source, my ideas bank, my giggle place when things were going terribly wrong and only they would get it. And then, one day, feeling brave and knowing I had something to contribute; I became a mummy blogger myself. And as they say, the rest is history!

 

Why I won’t hate on the haters

You won’t see me hating on the haters. They do make me feel uncomfortable. But I get it. *cover your eyes if you’re sensitive to the whole issue please for the next bit.

 

I get it because people like to put labels on things. Especially things they don’t understand. And let’s face it (because we must), whilst everyone’s opinions are valid and matter, all mummy (and daddy) bloggers are not equal. There are the super bloggers, the mid-level bloggers on the verge of greatness, the bloggers everyone wants to be, the bloggers everyone wants to be friends with, and I guess everyone else at varying levels. But lurking out there are also the give-it –a-try parenting bloggers, blog for ye self bloggers, and the graveyard blogs who may have seen better days.

 

If you’ve stumbled across a mummy bloggers post unintentionally, let’s say in Facebook because that seems to be the place where it all happens, it’s hit and miss what you may come across. A one-off sensational blog post intending to provoke as many people as possible or a crappy ‘today I went to the shops’ one isn’t showing you the bigger picture. But it can leave a lasting (bad) impression, can’t it.

 

*You can open your eyes now!

 

So, if you’re reading this and you are not a blogger, please don’t’ be too quick to pin the label on and go all mummy blogger hater on us. There are thousands upon thousands of mummy bloggers out there. The one sh*tty post you have found isn’t what we are all about.

 

And if you’re a blogger? Well, there’s only one thing I can say. Blog on, because you rock!

 

 

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60 Comments

  1. August 9, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    Before I started blogging myself, I had no idea mummy blogs were even a thing. When it comes to the haters, I tend to think that they are just jealous because other people are getting the attention they are craving.
    I get that they aren’t for everyone, but you can avoid reading something without feeling the need to publicly slate it.
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂
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  2. August 9, 2017 / 12:24 pm

    Yes yes yes!! I feel like there is such a stigma attached to mummy bloggers and I’m not sure why. I think these days it’s so easy for everyone to express their opinion (online). You are so right though, especially the part about the different categories of bloggers…I’m all about embracing it even if you don’t understand completely why someone would share what they have 🙂 Fab post lovely, such an important message xxx

  3. August 9, 2017 / 1:22 pm

    I read the mumsnet thread and thought, well you’ll hate my blog then, and then I moved on. Like you say we all like different things and all have different experiences. I really don’t like Game of Thrones, or Football, or Love Island. So I don’t watch them. Definitely couldn’t be bothered to complain about them being on TV though. #bloggerclubuk

  4. August 9, 2017 / 2:24 pm

    Being part of the blogging community has really taught me so much about other people, it’s like a new world. We all have our strengths and some blogs will make us cringe, every blog isn’t made for every person and I think that’s the thing isn’t it? We all have differences in what we love to write and what we want to read. Better to just source what we want to see than moan about things that don’t help us! #BloggerClubUK

  5. August 10, 2017 / 5:31 am

    Yes!! My blog is a bit different really, but actually still a lot of people who don’t ‘get’ it. And I’m sure there are many who don’t agree with my opinions on some things, but also many who do. And hopefully many who can take something from what I write and feel a bit better about their situation. Hopefully anyway! You’re so right about the different types of blogs, and the fact that some you will love and some you won’t really click with. I’ve actually found that some of the smaller and less known bloggers are fantastic, and some of the huge blogs out there I actually didn’t enjoy. But that’s all about personal preference and I think the blogging world is actually a fantastic thing which can both help gives advice to other mums, help them feel ‘normal’ and also in my case, massively help the blogger themselves sort through their emotions! Keep blogging everyone 🙂
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  6. August 10, 2017 / 9:26 am

    It’s true the whole mommy blogger hate thing does crop up quite a bit. I think it’s done to get views because bloggers come to defence & link to the offending post & get them even more views then. I agree, when you google issues & can read someone’s story it makes you feel so much better, I’ve done that a thousand times myself! Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK

  7. August 10, 2017 / 2:30 pm

    I’ll admit that I never even knew parent blogging was a thing. I read some sports stuff, somebody told me I should start writing my stories down and two 1/2 years later here I am #blogginggoodtime
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  8. August 10, 2017 / 6:34 pm

    I totally agree with you on this!! I didn’t really get ‘it’ before I was in ‘it’ either, and as nasty as people can be I just don’t see the point in getting worked up about it. There are trolls everywhere, and while I feel that there’s never an excuse for some of the awful things people say, I also know that it’s going to happen and is usually borne of not understanding. Plus there’s always the worry that I’m probably the shit one they came across and judged everyone else on, haha!! #BloggerClubUK
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  9. August 11, 2017 / 3:01 am

    I’ve been blogging for over a year now & I love the community of bloggers I am part of! It’s truly amazing how we manage to do it all-mom, write, publish, promote & oh yeah-manage a household! If I come across a blog I don’t like-i just don’t comment. You know, if you don’t have something nice to say, say nothing! For those who hate on mom bloggers-I do not think they understand what we do or why we do it. Sharing our stories & experiences is a cathartic experience and in many cases we help support our families through our work.
    I’m proud to be a mom blogger!
    #bloggerclubuk

  10. August 11, 2017 / 6:10 am

    Yep to the need to label everything and everyone!!! Thought this was a really fair and balanced response to the haters! I was probably skeptical of parenting bloggers too but now that I’ve got into it I realise how much more there is to it and how confidence-building and addictive it is! #BlogCrush
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    • August 16, 2017 / 7:57 pm

      Popping back from #DreamTeam ! Really enjoying reading this again, as I said it’s a really fair (and rather interesting response) to the haters x

  11. August 11, 2017 / 2:08 pm

    I didn’t realise mummy blogger was ‘a thing’ until I was pregnant too… then after much time spent on the internet I thought why not join ‘um? So I did! As a parent (which you probably need to be to ‘get the parent blogger thing’? Maybe?) it is a confidence boosting (I’m not doing to bad of a job then hopefully?!) space to be – and there’s nothing wrong with that! #blogcrush

  12. August 11, 2017 / 5:16 pm

    I certainly agree with the others here that we are NOT robots and thank goodness we don’t all like the same things. It would make for a rather boring place if we did. #BloggerClubUK
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  13. August 12, 2017 / 2:44 am

    And so do you! (Rock, that is!) You’re absolutely right, without the help and support of all my new bloggie friends I would find my life isolating and boring. Let’s stick with it ladies and gents. We all rock! liz x
    #Blogcrush
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  14. August 14, 2017 / 7:58 pm

    I think you make a great point here – there are so many types of mummy blogger within the mummy blogger umbrella! Some funny, some sincere, some downright graphic, some gentle. One blog post does not make you an expert on the blogging world, but I can understand how it can cause someone to create a bad opinion.

    I started my blog after reading the assurances of other mummy bloggers – sometimes you just need someone to say that they’ve been there and they know what it’s like. That’s the beauty of this little corner of the internet.

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the #blogcrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush
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  15. August 15, 2017 / 4:56 am

    Awesome post! People just need to keep reading and find the bloggers they want instead of bashing the whole community. It’s called the world wide web for a reason, there’s a ton of stuff to find! #DreamTeam
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  16. August 15, 2017 / 5:17 am

    Why so much hate tho? I understand dislike, but not hatred. I won’t hate one them either. I understand why too, people who I used to know/ follow has become distant and have unfollowed my social media.. not because they don’t like me anymore.. but becasue seeing breastpumps and explosive nappy pics ain’t they thing. I understand.. hump..
    #dreamteam
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  17. August 15, 2017 / 5:46 am

    I’m totally with you on this! It’s not fair to bash a whole community, especially when there is so much variety in it. Yes, there are a lot of blogs out there that won’t be to your taste (I certainly don’t like a lot of them – maybe most of them), but the internet is a big place and there’s bound to be a blogger out there who you relate with. And if you don’t like a particular type of blog? Just, umm., don’t read it. Simple. #dreamteam
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  18. August 15, 2017 / 6:04 am

    Yay! I love this post so much. I used to feel exactly the same as you did, I didn’t get the Mummy blogging thing. Then I became a mum and realised how rich in information, advice and support the blogging world is! Now that I’m a blogger myself, I totally agree with your point about labelling. Great post xx #dreamteam

  19. August 15, 2017 / 6:25 am

    I’m not a traditional ‘mummy blogger’ but I still get a lot of people I know who either dont understand or worse look down on my blogging and bloggers in general. Attention seeking, just in it for the freebies are the most common negative views I have seen.
    I dont judge them for judging us (much) #dreamteam
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  20. August 15, 2017 / 8:28 am

    I was the same about parents before i became one myself, then about bloggers before i too became a blogger! We never understand something until we are in the middle of it! Great post #DreamTeam
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  21. August 15, 2017 / 8:38 am

    I totally get this. I felt the same. The only posts I read were the quite frankly ridiculous ones that popped up on Facebook. But there are so many great blogs out there that I have now been exposed too. #DreamTeam
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  22. August 15, 2017 / 9:03 am

    Great post and great point made. I love reading the mummy blogs and totally understand why people love them now whereas previously I may have cringed at some of the things mentioned. My son is 12 now and I honestly feel like I missed out not knowing about them when he was little and when I could have really done with reading them! #dreamteam

  23. August 15, 2017 / 10:11 am

    A super post (: We do stick labels here and there, I’ve tried to just STOP judging, and feel my life has pretty drastically changed because ofit, not just in the blogging world but looking at the wider pictures. Our talents as bloggers and our ability to help different people must be appreciated for what it is, I can respect all bloggers despite not having the same lifestyle or interests (: #DreamTeam
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  24. August 15, 2017 / 11:56 am

    Thanks for writing this. I haven’t seen the post you’re referring to, but I myself am a new blogger too and also a mummy. So I guess that makes me a mummy blogger, but that doesn’t mean we’re all the same. We’re all individuals with our own interests, passions and experiences. We should respect each other’s courage to put ourselves out there for criticism. Love to all bloggers. #DreamTeam
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  25. August 15, 2017 / 12:32 pm

    My mummy was exactly the same and didn’t get what all the hype was about and why people overshared before she had me. However she has a new understanding for mummy bloggers now since becoming one 3 years ago, trying to help readers, sharing adventures and recording experiences as a blog post as opposed to a FB status has been a therapeutic journey. Just keep scrolling if you don’t like what you see xxx #DreamTeam
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    August 15, 2017 / 1:05 pm

    I think we can all evolve and change our minds! That’s the best thing about life!!
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  27. August 15, 2017 / 2:01 pm

    This is a great post Annette! I was the same before I started blogging actually…I just couldn’t see why some people carried on blogging but of course, I had read one of their many posts. Blogging is a lovely hobby for me and a fabulous career for some. Some of my family just don’t get it either. Blog on I say! #dreamteam
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  28. August 15, 2017 / 2:39 pm

    I tend to not read too much into what the mummy blogger haters have to say. Others writing about their experiences, the struggles and general life with parenting has helped me a lot. I feel extremely lucky to be a mummy blogger and find this community to be very special. 🙂

    #dreamteam
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  29. August 15, 2017 / 3:32 pm

    I think I must have my head in the sand a lot of the time. I swear I always miss when there is something going on in the blogging world. I haven’t seen the post but I’m sure I can work out what it was about. I don’t understand why people feel the need to try and bring down bloggers. If they don’t like it they don’t have to read it.
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  30. August 15, 2017 / 3:57 pm

    Absolutely! All of this! I don’t think I knew what a blogger really was until I started blogging. I can see how people (including you) would dismiss it. Now that I realise the amount of work that goes into it, it disappoints me so much to see people being so disparaging of it. #Dreamteam

  31. August 15, 2017 / 6:35 pm

    Totally get this as I was exactly the same. I didn’t get blogging at all until I started and I certainly had no idea just how much work goes into it. One year in I am seriously hooked and proud of my blog. That being said, while I can understand people’s feelings about mommy blogs, I can’t understand the people who leave hateful comments, if you don’t like something stop reading and move on x
    #DreamTeam
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  32. August 15, 2017 / 7:15 pm

    You can’t do right from wrong, I stay away from this negativity, if they don’t like it that’s their choice, they don’t have to read ti X #dreamteam

  33. August 15, 2017 / 9:16 pm

    I’ve never really got the whole mummy blogging hating thing, especially when it comes from people who are spending time on a forum talking about their own children. It’s just weird.
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  34. August 16, 2017 / 3:14 am

    Mom blogs open up an entire avenue for communication for moms, that actually helps us along the toughest things like pregnancies, loss, motherhood etc. It’s an amazing community. I don’t what I would do without it.
    Just began blogging myself, and loving all the support this community has to offer.

  35. August 16, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    I totally agree Annette. I can see how people wouldn’t appreciate a parenting blog or see the benefit in it until they’re in that situation themselves. Personally I found huge support in reading posts from other mums that shared real experiences. As one of the first of my circle of friends to have a baby I found it really isolating at times and it was comforting to feel like I wasn’t alone. It’s what inspired me to start my own blog. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, I just find it such a shame that people feel the need to criticise people for blogging. If it’s not your cup of tea then maybe just move along? I think we’re all entitled to a hobby or interest and this is ours. Love how you’ve presented this. xx
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  36. August 16, 2017 / 12:57 pm

    Love the way you just put it all into perspective. I started blogging to share my thoughts and experiences with other moms who go through similar issues. As a new blogger, I am yet to experience the hate thankfully not yet. #DreamTeam

  37. August 16, 2017 / 5:45 pm

    Hi, great post if you don’t like a blog you don’t have to follow it and we are all entitled to our own views. I have found the blogging world very helpful #dreamteam
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  38. August 16, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    #dreamteam what I love about blogs is the variety – not all are for me, some i like and others aren’t my style. So i always think that categorising blogs is a little like categorising the person behind the blog, we may all have the label Mum but how we ‘Mummy’ is completely up to us.
    Let the haters hate, I’m not going anywhere.
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  39. August 17, 2017 / 3:09 pm

    Annette, I never read mummy bloggers until I found you, Bridget and Dawn. I don’t have small children at home, so don’t need the moral support and tips I could find following mummy blogs. But I just happen to enjoy you three! Didn’t realize there were “haters” out there, but then there are haters of absolutely every thing, so why wouldn’t there be for mummy bloggers?!
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  40. August 17, 2017 / 5:47 pm

    I wrote about this last week. I think I was completely unaware of the haters so it was a total shock. If you don’t want to read, then don’t. The old saying, if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. #dreamteam

  41. August 18, 2017 / 8:26 pm

    Yes, I get labelled as this so much and people look down on me when I say that I am a blogger but people don’t realise how much work goes into it! It is literally a full time job! I actually blog a lot about education and activities etc but people are so quick to label.. I think they are just jealous that we get loads of stuff to be honest 😉 (although we do work hard for it!) #dreamteam
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  42. August 19, 2017 / 7:31 am

    Only me, popping back from #DreamTeam. I’m still really pleased I missed the original thread as I think it would’ve either upset me or made my blood boil! But if we’re enjoying doing our thing, why stop for the sake of a few people that may not like it?! Xxx
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  43. August 19, 2017 / 8:25 pm

    Love this post! Like you , I stumbled across mummy blogs when I was pregnant for the first time and by god they were a massive help. So I started my own – to hopefully be the next line in help to those who stumbled across mine. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  44. August 21, 2017 / 5:09 pm

    Why can’t people just scroll past if they see something they don’t like.

    P.s glad I’m not the only one to take a bazillion test!

    #bigpinklink

  45. August 21, 2017 / 8:27 pm

    I don’t hate the haters either. There are so many different topics of blogs out there, some that appeal and some that don’t. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I only ever put my positive opinions out on comments though. There’s enough hate in the world already, I’m not going to add to it. #bigpinklink

  46. August 22, 2017 / 7:40 am

    Really interesting and I agree with a lot of this. I too even since starting blogging have wondered about some bloggers, what they write and whether you need to be a certain style to get all the glory in terms of facebook shares etc. But like you say, I write for myself. Anyone who doesn’t like it is welcome to bog off, or try themselves if they want a go. I do worry some friends think its a bit wanky, but I enjoy it so I carry on for myself regardless of whether people think it’s trivial/boring/attention seeking etc! #DreamTeam xx

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