When I Grow Up

 

When I grow up I want to be a writer.

 

That’s what I used to tell my mum and dad. History may just be repeating itself as 3 year old Little Button passionately reminds me often that she wants to be a writer when she grows up…

 

And a fairy.

 

And a mermaid.

 

‘Actually mummy, I will be a fairy mermaid and my job will be writing’ she delights, whilst running off to find the appropriate props that will inevitably make her all 3 of these things. I muffle a laugh and shout after her…. you can be anything that you put your mind to be. ‘OK’ she yells back.

 

When I Grow Up

 

You are joking right?

I have asked myself this question a dozen times. Is it right to tell my daughter that she can be anything she puts her mind to? Us grownups know that the reality is, no matter how much we wish it, no one can grow up to be an actual fairy or mermaid… at least not the type that Little Button is referring to. So why say it.

 

 

Believe you can and you will

I say it because I don’t want her to feel that invisible pull. The one that holds you back from giving something a really good try. The thing that makes you think… I can’t because only a handful of people actually make it, and I won’t be one of them. Along her journey she will inevitably come cross people that will tell she can’t. So I will be faithfully by her side willing her on and reminding her that she can!

After all, perhaps a mermaid will evolve into being a swimmer or marine biologist. Sprinkle a bit of magic dust and a fairy could be a teacher, dancer or designer of some sort.

 

Until then, always dream big little one.

 

When I Grow Up

 

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams”. Oprah Winfrey

 

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45 Comments

  1. August 8, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    Aw love it! I still want to be a teacher at Hogwarts- almost the same.

    My answer was a writer when I was little….and still is!

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  2. August 9, 2016 / 5:17 am

    So true. The world will provide enough reality, you can help her dream big! And it will be amazing to watch her try different things and become whatever she chooses xx #dreamteam thank you for hosting

  3. August 9, 2016 / 5:39 am

    This is just gorgeous and I love the message – believe you can and you will! It’s something we should all do. Such a positive influence on your little one – just lovely and a wonderful read to start my day xx #dreamteam

  4. August 9, 2016 / 6:11 am

    This reminds me of a conversation I had with my dad around this age.

    Dad: “You can be anything you want to be when you grow up.”
    Me: “I want to fly.”
    Dad: “Sure! You can fly in an airplane.”
    Me: “I want to fly without an airplane. Just on my own.”

    Dream big! #DreamTeam
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  5. August 9, 2016 / 6:50 am

    I love this post! As you say, there will be enough people who will tell her she can’t do something. As mummies, we need to encourage and inspire them!

    My 5yo daughter just wants to be ‘a mummy’. Whilst I’m flattered that she wants to be like me, I do sometimes worry that, because I’m a SAHM, I’ve not inspired her to be career-minded or to have ambitions. Still, there’s time! #DreamTeam
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  6. August 9, 2016 / 7:28 am

    Ah love this. When I was young I always wanted to be a journalist, sadly my lack of academia didn’t lend itself well to my dream. Hey ho, another lifetime maybe. Dream big I say though, that’s what i’ll tell my son anyway. Everything is just a dream away…..#dreamteam (how apt!)
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  7. August 9, 2016 / 7:30 am

    That’s it- I am going to be a fairy mermaid too!!! Lovely post and you are right she should go for her dreams XX #Dreamteam

  8. August 9, 2016 / 7:35 am

    Ha! This reminded me of my nephew’s ambitions… He told me he wanted to be a writer, footballer or IT technician. He is 8. How does he even know about IT technicians?!

    PS I love that farm in the pic – just moved from Enfield and spent a lovely day there earlier this year 🙂

    #DreamTeam

  9. August 9, 2016 / 7:36 am

    Love it. Our eldest wants to be a part time dentist and part time super villian, seems compatible to me #dreamteam

  10. August 9, 2016 / 7:49 am

    I totally agree with you on this, and must do more of this with Baby Lighty. As he’s still learning to climb etc, I find myself sometimes saying “you won’t be able to do that yet”, and I really mustn’t, as perhaps he can and just needs to try. Totally agree that we need to encourage our little ones that they can be whatever they want as they grow up, particularly girls. Thanks for hosting #dreamteam.

  11. August 9, 2016 / 7:58 am

    Aw. Lovely, Annette. You are right. We should let them keep their dreams. They are kids! Let them enjoy the magic of dreams and aspirations and fairy tales.

    I always remember someone saying how children draw pink cats and blue dogs until someone tells them, ‘No. They aren’t pink or blue.’,..Then they’ll never draw a pink cat or blue dog again. But isn’t the world a greyer, less beautiful place without them?
    #Dreamteam

  12. August 9, 2016 / 8:12 am

    It’s so important to give kids the confidence to believe they can do what they want to. As they get older they will realise they can’t be fairies etc but you’re right, that will evolve into something more real and they should always think they are able to achieve that! #dreamteam

  13. August 9, 2016 / 8:33 am

    Great message. My father always told me to do something I love because he hates his job and just did it to make money to put food on the table and send us to university. None of his children are rich or famous, but we all do something we love, and it means even more because it is all thanks to him. I owe him more than I can ever repay. #DreamTeam

  14. August 9, 2016 / 9:04 am

    “Believe you can and will” I love that postivie energy. My daughter wants to be Mr Potts from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang… if thats what she wants, then thats what she wants 🙂 #DreamTeam
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  15. August 9, 2016 / 9:05 am

    I absolutely agree. We should empower our children to feel that the world is their oyster. Life will dampen their ambition and expectations in its own time I expect but we shouldn’t be the ones to do it. Great post. #dreamteam
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  16. August 9, 2016 / 9:17 am

    I loved reading this, it’s great to let our babies dream about their future and for us to encourage them rather than telling them the reality, there is still plenty of time for that!! For now she can be a fairy or a mermaid or a princess or a frozen character #dreamteam
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  17. August 9, 2016 / 9:27 am

    Oh I agree. I am always telling my two to reach for the stars. You have to chase your dreams #DreamTeam
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  18. August 9, 2016 / 9:31 am

    Ahh i wanted to be Jem from Jem and the holograms then a fashion designer my mum was amazing in helping me to achieve my dreams then i changed my mind again lol now i want to be Carrie Bradshaw #DreamTeam

  19. August 9, 2016 / 11:11 am

    I’ve always been told if you work hard enough at it you can do it. I totally believe we should tell our kids they can do what they want and make things happen! Although I won’t be encouraging them to apply for the x factor if they are tone deaf and can’t sing for toffee 😉 #DreamTeam

  20. August 9, 2016 / 11:22 am

    Ah this is so lovely! I think it’s great to encourage kids to dream big and feel capable of doing anything. They will realise in time that they can’t literally be a fairy but having the confidence to pursue your dreams is a fantastic trait. #dreamteam
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  21. August 9, 2016 / 11:36 am

    I always said I wanted to be a writer too. It’s only now that I’ve actually started doing something about it! Why rush their journey to adulthood? Let them live in their imagination for as long as possible! #dreamteam

  22. August 9, 2016 / 12:16 pm

    I always believe in feeding the magic and whimsy inside, because after all how dull would the world be! Creative thinking when you’re younger gives you so much as your grow up. To believe in the unbelievable and dream the unthinkable isn’t that what every inventor, creator, inspiring person ever did (: #DreamTeam
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  23. August 9, 2016 / 12:34 pm

    This is such a well-timed post for me as it chimes with things I’ve been thinking about myself and my daughter. I let life beat me down too much and I’ve only recently started relooking at what my dreams are NOT what everyone else thought they should be. Yesterday a woman asked my daughter (who’s two) whether she was going to be a model when she grows up because she looked so pretty. She replied ‘No, I’m going to be a unicorn and an airplane driver and a Tinkerbell doctor.’ Then the lady responded that she didn’t think you could be all three my daughter looked her straight in the eye and said ‘I’ll find a way’. I think my heart literally burst with pride – I hope she keeps hold of that belief as she grows up. #DreamTeam

  24. August 9, 2016 / 4:24 pm

    I want to be all those things too! Fab job choices 😉
    Absolutely 100% agree, let them dream big, they can be anything they want. Like you say enough people in life will say that they can’t. Our job is to be their No 1 Cheerleader and support them whatever they want to be. They won’t always want to be mythical characters, and when the grown up world takes over we can still be there helping them to dream big! Lovely post!
    #DreamTeam (very appropriate link to title)
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  25. August 9, 2016 / 10:08 pm

    This is a lovely post!! It’s so inspirational as well, I wanted to be so much when I was younger and I let my drive dissappear a little but I’m starting to get it back. It’s amazing to belive in something. #DreamTeam

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  26. August 10, 2016 / 6:02 am

    I agree, why would you limit their imagination, they are only little once after all. A lovely little post. #DreamTeam

  27. August 10, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    This is lovely. I think it’s so important to encourage children to be whatever they want to be. I find it really exciting to watch my little boy play the piano, or sing, want yo help me cook or even pretend he’s driving a car and winder what he might be when he’s grows up. Mg money’s on him becoming Elton John at the moment x
    #DreamTeam
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  28. August 10, 2016 / 8:10 pm

    Aw your little lady is so lucky to have such a lovely mum. You really do add a sprinkle of magic to everything. Gorgeous post xx

  29. August 11, 2016 / 3:38 am

    oh I love this post honey, so beautiful! I dreamed I would be a writer and I am not giving up on that dream, hopefully one day I will publish my book. My daughter wanted to be Ariel the Mermaid, she has not yet become a mermaid but she has the long red hair at least. #dreamteam
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  30. August 11, 2016 / 6:10 pm

    Aw I love this! It’s such a fine line isn’t it – my stepson wants to be a footballer and we are now resorting to, “that’s amazing but it’s always good to have a Plan B”. I think when they are little though, it’s great to instill them with confidence that the world is their oyster and they can do anything 🙂 Thanks again for co-hosting with me xx
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  31. August 11, 2016 / 7:42 pm

    I just love their imaginations. My daughter wants to be a police officer who is also a singer! A writing fairy mermaid sounds like an awesome job! #DreamTeam
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  32. August 11, 2016 / 8:52 pm

    What a lovely post. I remember changing my mind every week when I was little, I wanted to be a write, a fashion designer, a singer. I think being a writing fairy mermaid sounds amazing! #dreamteam
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  33. August 12, 2016 / 2:24 pm

    What a great imagination she has. I love it! I think it’s always important to encourage children to dream big and be creative. #DreamTeam
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  34. August 12, 2016 / 6:52 pm

    Bless. No, there is no need to tell her she cant be a Fairy Mermaid. Firstly, kids change their mind on what they want to be all the time, so in a few months she might want to be a Robot Spaceman instead!! Also, if she sticks with wanting to be a Fairy Mermaid she will eventually realise they arent real and that she cant be one without you bursting her bubble!
    I agree, there are so many people out there telling you what you cant do, she needs you in her corner to tell her she can do whatever she sets her mind to!
    #DreamTeam
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  35. August 20, 2016 / 6:55 pm

    Oh this is lovely! It’s great she’s got a dream I’m sure it will continue to change but she’s got a great imagination so it will be interesting to see what she comes up with. Thank you for hosting, I’m sorry my comments are so late!! #dreamteam
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